Helping vs. "Helping"

My husband and I have issued the following restrictions on the definition of "helping":

• Cooking dinner for us doesn't count as helping unless grocery-buying and clean-up are included.
• Holding the baby when she is sleeping doesn't count as helping.

We (mostly me) are fatigued to the point where it has become much easier to draw boundaries and, say, prioritize our needs (mostly mine and baby's) above my mother-in-law's. I just don't have the energy to care whether other people are put out when we tell them no. Also my husband is back at work now, and I have actually been relieved to have the house to myself and little more flexibility as Mini-Me and I settle into a routine.